I adore how she carries his head low, at her side, and not aloft in triumph. This is not a self-aggrandizing hero lauding her great deed. This is a woman who wanted to be left the fuck alone.
Also look at her body. The double hips. The asymetrical boobs. She’s thin, but she’s realistic as hell. That’s a real woman.
And the look in her eyes. Damn.
I originally saw photos of Garbati’s Medusa a long time ago, but I specifically remember this post from earlier this year. Medusa was one of those pieces that really buried into my head and heart. Sounds silly, but just looking at it gives me strength.
Today I was lucky enough to see it in person. She’s incredible. And, something that the original pictures don’t show— she’s HUGE!
when “no means no” comes up, you hear guys say “oh, but sometimes girls play hard to get” and like…. i guess, yeah. men & women both can be really bad at being honest about what they want. but just consider your options.
the other person says “no” and means “yes” –> you back down –> they learn
that if they want something, they have to clearly express themselves
they say “no” and mean “no” –> you back down –> you’ve successfully respected their boundaries
👍👌
they say “no” and mean “yes” –> you ignore them –> you’re perpetuating a pattern of bad communication & ignoring boundaries 👎 & given that you aren’t a mind reader, it’s really just luck that you haven’t coerced an unwilling person into sex
they say “no” and mean “no” –> you ignore them –> you’ve committed sexual assault 🚨🚨🚨 do not pass go, do not collect 200 dollars
unless you care more about getting laid than not assaulting people, respecting people’s “no”s is a win-win situation. don’t be a potential rapist